something something.....

SHE SAYS;

we talk too much... :p
Stay tuned! There'll be pics too...hehe..

makan

HE SAYS;

Work day = bad. After work = good.

Ok, that wasn’t a blog post, but it’s a good start, right? (say yes, or I don’t ‘friend’ you). I feel perky because I had a very good time with her, of all places, at a coffee shop. Intro background story: When we started dating, I didn’t know many places to eat, so she would bring me around to all the eateries she patronised in Singapore and would make me try dishes that I’ve never tried before (I was never a fan of seafood; now I quite like it). Along the way, I became more Singaporean, and would boast to my friends about places we went to and how good the food was. I felt like I was one of ‘them’, able to critique on our national pastime: eating good food!

Anyways, we went a lot of coffee shops. Restaurants were for more ...ahem...wealthy people. Hey, we were young-uns, just entered the work force, enjoying the little money we made at first. There weren’t that many halal eateries anyway, well, at least not the kind of cuisine we wanted to try. But we went to many a makan place and I started to appreciate the local cuisine that I grew up with but never really tried.

Thank you, dear, for introducing me to so much good food. And making me so fat in the process, bwa ha ha hah.

easy like sunday mornin'....

HE SAYS;

SUNDAY! FINALLY! I don’t know why I’m so happy its Sunday. Saturday is usually pretty good too. This Sunday feels like a bright ray of sunshine after an arduous week. Yesterday did not go well because I became Mr. Grumpy because I woke up too early and couldn’t go back to sleep. She didn’t appreciate the grumpy side of me. We had a tiff because I wore ‘The Face’. You know what I’m talking about. There are many names of ‘The Face’ but I will get censured for repeating those names here. Anyway, I apologised for being a grouchy grouch and tried to make up for it. To her credit, she actually smiled and made me promise that I behave better today.

And I feel GOOOOD. I slept in late, which reenergised my batteries and I had my power breakfast (BK breakfast King). Today feels like how a Sunday should feel. I’m going out and making it a happy day today. She has put up with my nonsense boorish behaviour lately, so I’m going to make it up to her today. Wish me luck!

Blame it on the train....

SHE SAYS;

It's just another manic Monday!!
Manic Monday

sings;
Six o'clock already I was just in the middle of a dream
I was kissin' Valentino by a crystal blue Italian stream
But I can't be late 'cause then I guess I just won't get paid
These are the days when you wish your bed was already made.

It's just another manic Monday (oh-woe)
I wish it was Sunday (oh-woe)
'Cause that's my Funday (oh-woe)
My I don't have to runday (oh)
It's just another manic Monday.

Have to catch an early train, got to be to work by nine
And if I had an air-o-plane, I still couldn't make it on time
'Cause it takes me so long just to figure out what I'm gonna wear
Blame it on the train but the boss is already there.

It's just another manic Monday (oh-woe)
I wish it was Sunday (oh-woe)
'Cause that's my Funday (oh-woe)
My I don't have to runday (oh)
It's just another manic Monday.

All of my nights why did my lover have to pick last night to get down (last night, last night)
Doesn't it matter that I have to feed the both of us, employment's down
He tells me in his bedroom voice:
"C'mon feal the noise" (ba ba ba baaaa)
Time, it goes so fast (when you're having fun).

It's just another manic Monday
I wish it was Sunday
'Cause that's my Funday
My I don't have to runday
It's just another manic Monday
I wish it was Sunday
'Cause that's my funday
My I don't have to runday
It's just another manic Monday...............arrghhhh...BACK TO WORK!!!

stress?

SHE SAYS;

Men need to listen and women need to take a step back.
Well said!
So please listen to ME :)
And I'll gladly step back(unless necessary)...hehe...

I do agree that living in Singapore is STRESSFUL. The need to achieve the 5Cs, I mean even LVs is no longer that EXCLUSIVE, if you know what I mean :p

We are pressured to meet that "SOMEONE", fall in love and for the ladies, to quickly get married and have children, YES to support the island's economy. Being in Singapore, we human beings ARE the natural resources to be used up. Sad, but that's what it is...if you slack, there's always the PRs :s

It's not just stress that people stop focusing on their relationship,right? And when you stop focusing on the relationship, it becomes stagnant,in time, they lost that loving feeling....

Again, is it fair to just blame it on stress or is it lack of knowledge?

I mean, these are social skills....but where do we learn it from? From our parents? Peers? I mean if we have to go to school just to learn maths, why isn't there subjects on how to behave in a relationship with a significant other, how to keep up with the relationship or even on how to cope with a breakup? Aren't these skills important too??

Media plays a role in it too, doesn't it? I mean the reports on broken marriages are no longer a taboo.... Thus, without a proper knowledge and perhaps the will to keep the relationship going, with stress playing a role in the whole equation and knowing that it is no longer a taboo to leave a marriage, therefore, couples choose the easy way out that is to terminate the union rather than 'trying' to 'work' it out coz life is already stressful and the relationship isn't working!!

Do people really think that relationships will grow and take it's own course without any effort being put in? Or does money rule over matters of the heart?

I am glad that my SO is attentive nowadays and has started to Listen :)
He has also started to open up and share his feelings. Yeah, when we're too caught up with the distractions life's got to offer, look back and focus on the point why we're in a relationship in the first place. And "although we have our different personalities, that doesn’t mean we can’t find a way to be nice and loving to one another and still keep a handle on things."

Mum used to say: It is ok to make mistakes. It is ok to say you're sorry. It is ok. Life will be ok....

QUESTION

HE SAYS;

Is being in love in Singapore stressful? Are Singaporeans under pressure to meet someone and fall in love, get married, have children and support the island’s economy? Are we human beings or natural resources to be used up?

I’m curious about the state of affairs of the heart, on this land we call home. There’s been a lot of talk about couples seeking advice from marriage counsellors, cases of infidelity and irreconcilable differences, divorces on the rise, etc. It’s such a bleak outlook on the institution of marriage. A lot of incentives and positives programmes have been created about the subject of love and marriage but are people really focussing on the point of having a relationship in the first place?

We live in a stressful environment, there’s no denying that. But are we coping with the stress well? I believe we let it affect everything in our environment, especially our partners. It’s easy to lash out and expend your emotions, but not easy to keep calm and talk things through. Although we have our different personalities, that doesn’t mean we can’t find a way to be nice and loving to one another and still keep a handle on things.

Men need to escape and squash such stressful feelings; women feel the need to show them and process everything out. It’s like logic and fact not making sense of each other. Men need to listen and women need to take a step back. It won’t be so stressful that way.

therapy

SHE SAYS;

Are we not like two volumes of one book?
~Marceline Desbordes-Valmore

Very apt don't you guys think?...awwww
YUP, I'm talkin abt how the quote suits us....when I first suggest to him abt sharing a blog, I admit that even I was skeptical at first.

But now, I guess, it kinda worked...haha...
seems like free therapy for the both of us :)

Not only do we READ each other, we understand one another's point of view even better and I hope clearer, now.

We still banter but it's more objective now...haha...
Anyways, all these for the better :)

More good things to come, Insya'Allah!

MEN!

SHE SAYS;

I DON'T UNDERSTAND IT EITHER!
WHAT DO MEN WANT? :p

Dear, AWAK!
We've been together, for more than half a decade!
How can I NOT know you "SO WELL"??
Sad that u still don't know me :s ...heh
(Actually, that's kinda good thing, no?)

Anyways...hehe...it kinda scare me too at times when I get the "vibes" ,
the intuition and kinda know what's going thru his mind and the what nots....
but it's cool, isn't it?
..haha..

not only do we get the static shock when we touch
(well, especially when we're in a cold supermarket)
but you know that without saying a word,
I know what you're going thru...

but of course,
at times the antenna doesn't quite function and thus the slight misunderstanding,
so when that happens,
SPEAK UP!
Share with me your troubles...other than that,
"you say it best, when you say nothing at all...." hehehe

Dah, don't think so much, rest well and have a better day tomorrow!

Intuition

HE SAYS;

I’ve always viewed the opinion of women’s intuition in scepticism. What is that ‘intuition’? Where does it come from? Is it something genetically endowed upon all females or is it something mothers pass to their daughters? What do women want?

I sound annoyed. You bet you behind I do. See, I don’t know what makes a woman tick. What infernal internal workings reside in the psyche of the female? It’s like the Jedi Force or something. I think George Lucas chanced upon a secret knowledge and before the Lady League could ‘remove’ him, he decided to make a movie with hidden clues and be famous so that his sudden disappearance would appear highly suspicious and cause a great big investigation and the secret of all women would be revealed to the world and humanity would plunge into chaos and the end of the world is nigh.

I have a ... unique imagination. Or so I’m told. ANYWAY, I find it utterly frustrating that she has this psychic power. Yes, I’ve said it. Powers of enhanced observation, clairvoyance and sometimes telekinesis (that happens when she throws something at me, ha-ha kidding). Without going into James Clavell-novel-like details, she seems to know what I’m actually feeling, what I intend to do, how I’m going to do it and what I’m going to say. If I wanted to give a little white lie, or appear to be confident and happy when I’m not, she knows. It’s like I’m an open book!

She even knows I’m ranting right now! Sigh.... I’m feeling like this because it’s unnerving that someone can know me so well. But I guess its ok because it’s her. Next chapter, turn the page.....

love

SHE SAYS;

He used to tell me, "To love is to be selfless, I love you, selflessly....."

If you're thinking that he's romantic, well, he is....BUT not quite the conventional way, u know, the roses, the chocolates....the works....he's more of the practical LOMANTIC... Yeah, LOMANTIC with a capital L. Coz he does it with LOVE. :p

How he'd travel for 45mins to come meet me after work for dinner or for a swim(we've both grown sideways over the years and running is tiring..haha..) or even just to sit at the bench and catch up on our day before he leaves for an hr ride back home. And he does this ALMOST everyday. I thank him for all these BUT....well, there's always the BUT!! A lil bit more won't hurt right? ;p Don't you ladies agree?

I know he's written a post on being complacent and becoming boring.... is that all? Am I supposed to just settle?

Yes we've talked abt it A LOT...we've tried new things eg. SWIMMING :), meet up at new places and then we lapse coz it seems like we're trying too hard and the sitting at the bench talking abt how our days goes by and gazing into each other's eyes seems FUN afterall....

Relationship is soooooooo difficult to comprehend at times. We love being with each other but I guess, people change. Sometimes, I want A....at times, I want B. Then there are the other times that I want A again... Makes sense?

Bottomline is, we've been with each other for a long time. We still enjoy each other's company MOST of the time...haha..I guess, it's ok to be boring at times.... :p I admit I do say that he's boring nowadays but good thing about him is that he takes it in his stride and that's when we try new things and things become ok again.

I'm glad he's aware. Well, he's "said it out LOUD"....so dude, IT IS OK to be BORING at times but I'm not gonna settle! So put in the effort and suprise me at times,uh? ...make it interesting again and again and again and again...:) And I too will do the same too...:D

Darling, I love you, selflessly too...hehe