Thursday, November 12, 2009



Is being in love in Singapore stressful? Are Singaporeans under pressure to meet someone and fall in love, get married, have children and support the island’s economy? Are we human beings or natural resources to be used up?

I’m curious about the state of affairs of the heart, on this land we call home. There’s been a lot of talk about couples seeking advice from marriage counsellors, cases of infidelity and irreconcilable differences, divorces on the rise, etc. It’s such a bleak outlook on the institution of marriage. A lot of incentives and positives programmes have been created about the subject of love and marriage but are people really focussing on the point of having a relationship in the first place?

We live in a stressful environment, there’s no denying that. But are we coping with the stress well? I believe we let it affect everything in our environment, especially our partners. It’s easy to lash out and expend your emotions, but not easy to keep calm and talk things through. Although we have our different personalities, that doesn’t mean we can’t find a way to be nice and loving to one another and still keep a handle on things.

Men need to escape and squash such stressful feelings; women feel the need to show them and process everything out. It’s like logic and fact not making sense of each other. Men need to listen and women need to take a step back. It won’t be so stressful that way.


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